《今日聊聊》——破冰学堂：提问过去、提问目前、提问未来

破冰学堂

Questions are much better both for initiating and maintaining a conversation than offering simple comments on a variety of subjects. Yet asking questions is really an art. Too many questions, too soon, and too deep can make you seem more like a stalker than a potential friend. Nobody wants that, so it’s important to exercise a certain level of tact when asking questions of someone you’ve just met. There are three types of ice breaking questions you can use to initiate and maintain a conversation with someone new. These are questions about the past, the present, and the future.

提问比平淡地评论某事物更有利于发起交谈。然而，如何提问是一门艺术。过多的问题、太快的提问、或者问得太深都会让人觉得我们有侵犯隐私之嫌，而不像朋友之间的交流。我们都不想被误会，因此，颇为重要的是，当我们对刚认识的人提问时，要具备一定的机敏性。有三种类型的破冰提问可用于发起并维持交谈，它们是：提问过去、提问目前和提问未来。

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提问过去

·         Where did you grow up?

·         What was your favourite part of growing up?

·         What do you do for a living?

·         How did you get to where you are now?

·         What was your family like?

·         Where did you go to high school?

·         What was your favourite part of high school?

·         Where did you go to college?

·         What did you study in college?

提问目前

• What are you doing right now that you really enjoy doing?

• What brings you here?

• What do you think about this (party, event, get together)?

• What is your favourite movie right now?

• Who is your favourite music artist?

• What is your favourite place to visit?

提问未来

• What are your plans for the weekend?

• What is one thing you hope to do in the future?

• Where do you see yourself in five years?

• What is your dream job?

• What are the top 3 places you wish you could visit someday? Why?

  
  

Sim 提示：中高级学习者（大学六级以上）必须草拟自己的地道口语答案，然后每3小时回答以上问题一次，注意不一定要严格按照草拟的内容，而是注重流畅性和有效性（回答没有大量的字眼重复或无实在信息反馈性质的内容），一周后可望获得质变—准母语者的流畅性和自然度；英语基础较差的同学不用担心，时间会更久一点，如一个月左右，但是每天的训练都在为质变做准备。各问题的参考回答见同期文章“破冰讲习所”。